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Subject:	INFP : a users manual for the sensitive soul
Posted by:	anomaly_adrift.
Time:	2:57 am.

XD man.. i can't tell you all how at home I feel right now. I need to drop in more frequently.. been reading up on several posts for over an hour now and its like I'm understanding myself again :P hah. sounds silly. but yeah i feel empowered in your company.. like my batteries are recharging and i wanna run out into the world and knock some sense into people :P thank you all for being you and being here and sharing your thoughts/ experiences. and on that thought, i think we need to start that previously mentioned infp introvert revolution.

perhaps start by organizing the thoughts and ideas contained in the history of this community into a INFP handbook/ guidebook/ users manual. Who'd be interested in compiling such a resource for the lone infp wandering in the wilderness? haha. the INFP wilderness survival guide. a users manual to managing your life and maintaining a healthy fulfilling interaction with the world around you.

what do you think? I know for a fact i could use a 3 ring binder with tabs that had an index with "ooooohhhh shit! thats right! bahahahahah"'s , or "hmm.... thats why i keep hittin a snag..." type stuff in it. that and of course the necesary stories and resounding YESS!!!!! thats it! omg i'm not the only one! 's ...

any thoughts? anyone interested in contributing? anyone good at organizing? :X heh.. anyone have any experience taking on such a massive project? i could illustrate pictures n diagrams. perhaps lil mini comics to illustrate core frustrations :P anyway.. lets start something revolutionary. feedback an thoughts would be most appretiated. i hope this rings true with you, we could be the lighthouse in the darkness guiding our fellow infps out of the shadows and up to reach their full potential, and providing all the tools and ammunition to do so, while remembering all the brilliant things we have to offer the world..

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tristissima

Time:

11:05 pm.

10:58 @krimhum - it's not actually for me (wrong field), but a friend of a friend. What's your e-mail? I can forward you their resume. #
11:23 RT @metaphorge: RT @whittles: Happy Birthday, Sesame Street! 40 years of transgressive kids TV - bit.ly/2mY6ze #
13:53 Going to spend the next couple of hours trolling for retail jobs. Anyone wanna keep me company? #
15:47 Why does Target need to know howbsatisfied I am with my life, how many politicians I think are honest, and how many clubs I was in in HS? #
16:31 Turned in 2 Barnes and Nobles applications and did a Target application. Not much for 2 hours I guess, but hopefully worth it nonetheless. #
16:47 I'm at Barefoot, if anyone wants to hang. #

Having witnesed Princess Teacup while was performing eir daily, a-HEM, Twitter "business", you shall now be transformed into biscotti.

You can thank LoudTwitter for your current predicament.

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Subject:	"The Trick of Finding YOUR Self When You are Highly Sensitive" [news article]
Posted by:	theidolhands.
Time:	4:22 am.

Another relevant article to

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The Trick of Finding YOUR Self When You are Highly Sensitive
posted by Ane Weed
full article

(HSP = Highly Sensitive People)

Being highly sensitive means that you are attuned to the feelings, needs, wants of those around you...and you can be highly affected by them. Many HSPs can become very accommodating to those around them as a way to cope. They grow up in an environment where they are constantly bombarded by the emotions of others, so they subconsciously begin to do their best to manage the emotions of others in an effort to feel peace themselves. Anger is particularly upsetting because it is such a strong emotion that feels so overwhelming to HSPs. So, many HSPs will do anything to keep the peace and prevent anger. All of this work to manage others' emotions can get in the way of just being. It can prevent a HSP from getting to know themselves or from listening to their own emotions.

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Be selfish, and be aware that this is going to cause a reaction. By having your own opinions, giving others back the responsibility for their emotions, and taking responsibility for your own emotions you are breaking the rules you previously set up. This may cause a stir and many may resist what you are doing. That is a good sign that you are on the right track. Cause a stir! Only do what YOU want. If you don't know, take time to listen to yourself until you do--listen to your body not your thoughts, your voice not your phantom's voice. It's ok to tell people "I don't know, let me get back to you on that." This will get easier with time.

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Subject:	"Caring for Your Introvert" [news article]
Posted by:	theidolhands.
Time:	3:54 am.

Interesting article that I thought I would share.
Feel free to link and/or mention

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Caring for Your Introvert
by Jonathan Rauch

Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?

If so, do you tell this person he is "too serious," or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?

If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly. Science has learned a good deal in recent years about the habits and requirements of introverts. It has even learned, by means of brain scans, that introverts process information differently from other people (I am not making this up). If you are behind the curve on this important matter, be reassured that you are not alone. Introverts may be common, but they are also among the most misunderstood and aggrieved groups in America, possibly the world.

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Gosh, if I had a dollar for every time someone asked "What's wrong?" when I was just in deep thought...
But truly, I identified with all of this!

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tristissima

Subject:	My Ideal Life Part Four
Time:	3:09 pm.

I was digesting some of the talk about to do lists in the car last night on the way home from munch and came (as is my wont) to an oblique conclusion.

Am I too vague in my ideal life?

My ideal house is as detailed as it needs to be. Any house which has the rooms I need is acceptable. Every other detail is icing.

My ideal life on the other hand . . .

Case study: I keep mentioning an activist element in my ideal life. This is perhaps a misnomer, I realize: political would be a better adjective, because activism is but one part of four that I can see. These would be:

1) Activism, defined as a process of engaging the system that exists in order to change it. This is constructed from rallies, letter-writing, direct involvement in the political process, et cetera.

2) Utopianism, defined as constructing the world i would like to see from the ground up, completely ignoring the pre-existing society. This is constructed through intentional community, organizational principles for any organization which I create, et cetera. Examples that do not necessarily include going elsewhere to create a new community include operating as much as possible on a gift economy and other such activities.

3) Ontology, defined as the way I walk thriugh the world. This is the self-work required of any true counterculturalist. It is constructed in the work of rooting out any *ist or *phobic mental structures I have internalized, antinomianism, and freeing myself from the chains of power-over and pop-cult poison.

4) Cultural change, defined as working nonstructurally to bring about the world I would like to see. This is constructed by raising consciousness/awareness (such as the 2nd-Wave feminists did), culturejamming, glamourbombing, et cetera).

Despite this new detailing of what I mean, I have little concrete conception of how I would incorporate these into my Ideal Life, other than that I want to. This seems like a vital and lethal deficiency. The reason I started this discussion of details with politics (perhaps) is that I have seen my failures very clearly in this way. In college, I was able to plug into a pre-existing structure and community of activist folk that helped me engage these four points. When I graduated, I lost that and subsequently largely dropped out of political action, something I have beaten mysef up for far more than I should have.

Politics, however, isn't the only area with this deficiency: I say "monastic" but what do I mean? What about UTMAD? Though I have an idea of what UTMAD is, it lacks a deep enough pedagogy and philosophy (and perhaps study) for me to feel very comfortable with it as an Ideal Life. Other areas, naturally enough, have this deficiency as well.

But of course, this has brought up another self-criticism (no doubt internalized from my family): Am I too greedy with my Ideal Life? Do I want to do too much? Am I too hungry in my interests to achieve any real success in any of them? How can I possibly satisfy myself with parties and the four political activities, and a new form of education, and magick, and (let's just say) 4 relationships and and and and . . .

I'd also like to point out that, concomitant with this prcess, my father is trying once again to help me try to get a crapjob before my student teaching. Why is it that I feel hope with each of these posts (even the ones that make me want to cry) and despair when I make plans with him?

And just as a side-note, perhaps, I would like to thank the friend of mine that told me to rely more on other people for my emotional needs (you know who you are, and I hope you read this -- feel free to identify yourself if you wish, I simply wanted to leave that decision to you). I'm not at the level yet (why?), perhaps, where I am calling people to spill my guts, but this is hopefully a start.

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Subject:	Famous/Celebrity/Well-known INFPs
Posted by:	cosplaynekokat.
Time:	1:49 pm.

Yup, I'm at it again XD;

I was reading about Ralph Waldo Emerson today and thought, 'Huh, this guy seems pretty INFP-like.' I mean, that was just my impression from reading his Biography on Wikipedia and his essay 'Self-Reliance', so I honestly don't know for sure.

So, are there any celebrities that you personally think are just undeniably INFP?
Of course there's always that 'You can never truly know a celebrity's type for sure unless they take the test themself' thing, but whatever LOL

The only three that I feel almost absolutely certain of is HRH Princess Diana Spencer of Wales, actor Johnny Depp and deceased musician Elliott Smith (don't cry, Postal LOL). The more interviews/descriptions I read and watch the more I'm convinced that Johnny is in the INFP club XD I've seen his type being debated over on several different MBTI forums over the last few years, and almost all of them come to the agreement that he's an INFP (a lot of people who thought otherwise ended up changing their minds in the end LOL). As for Princess Diana, she'd actually said herself that she was an INFP. Like everyone else there was always a chance of mistyping herself, but from what I've read in 'Princess Diana: In Her Own Words' (might not be the exact title) it seemed pretty apparent that she was right. As for Elliott Smith, I'd also read/watched a lot of his interviews, read biography's, descriptions by people he knew, etc.

Okay, I'm getting tired and my legs've fallen asleep, so I'll leave that for you guys to discuss (the topic, not my legs LOL).

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kazuaki

Subject:	Almost Long Weekend
Time:	9:29 pm.
Mood:	sleepy.
Music:	Brainwash - The Fun And Exitment.

Well, that definitely felt like a long weekend . . . Friday was Psy and Strippers (and you were there! and you were there!!) Saturday morning and afternoon were spent at Kupp's, with much music, shit-talking, and Dr. Tran. No barbecue, but maybe the sunburn made up for it :P

We nabbed Kelly, Luke, and AJ for some RockBand and chats. And then it was Sunday. Right now, I can't think what happened, so I'll just go with "nothing" until someone reminds me :P Work on Monday wasn't too interesting, but that night was Golgotha/Cabaret Nocturne. The music wasn't too awesome, but I had fun talking to friends and randoms alike (which is slightly out of the ordinary for me).

Cup Day, Ash woke me up for breakfast, which we ended up having at No. Five. He went out with Selina to buy a new phone, then we jetted over to the Fenotorium for racing barbecues :D Had a lovely time, and managed to squeeze in some squishes, too ;) After we made it home, Steve and Leigh dropped in. We got pizza, and watched a bunch of Harvey Birdman :B

Today I got a Hackintosh to work on Simpsons iPhone . . . it's a bit rubbish, but I should be getting a new Mac Mini soon. Tomorrow is meant to be a dinner for Lee's birthday, and also an A Lonely Crowd gig in Frankston . . . Saturday night is Ravelations, too. Busy Busy :D

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Subject:	Forms of rebellion
Posted by:	fic_sci.
Time:	2:32 am.
Mood:	confused.
Music:	Plastic Tree.

Well, one post gives ideas for the next ^^

I just read the previous thread about rules, and it kinda surprised me that many of you INFPs are quite rebellious. Now, why am I surprised?

I feel like, when I do rebel, I only do it in my head. I often have rebellious thoughts that any loving SJ parents (hahaha) should be concerned about. By that I mean things like, not being an unquestioning Christian, wanting to have premarital sex, supporting gay rights, thinking that animals should have more rights, etc.... I mean, WTF, they're really normal O_O ... Well I guess some of them are the fault of my overactive existentialist or apocalyptic imaginations too... Also, ever since I was 12, I've been listening to rock music that, I guess, can offend people one way or another with androgyny/dark thoughts/etc, even though I've listened to really different stuff. Of course that often becomes my parents' main evidence of my "improper" behavior.

But to think about it, I've never actually rebelled by DOING things. I've never smoked, nor wanted to, because my dad's a smoker and his breath smells really bad. I have fought with my parents, but they're verbal fighting. Never tried running away from home. Never stayed the whole night out without letting them know. Never had sex... actually I'm just saying that because I'm horny. Never hung out with the wrong crowd. Never done drugs. Never gone to an alcoholic party all throughout high school (because I thought the people were kinda lame anyway). Never skipped school (unless it's for finishing a school assignment, that totally doesn't count). Never got into serious fights. Never got into detention all throughout high school. I can keep going with this...

Anyways, my point is, I was wondering if it's an INFP thing that I don't physically DO things to rebel, but just have crazy thoughts in my head. Or is it just me who doesn't "live" my life enough to do any of these?

Other than that, please continue discussing your rebellious experiences, lol ^^

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tristissima

Subject:	My ideal Life Part Three, again from my comments page, again thanks to the awesome Nancy Blue
Time:	2:02 pm.

I keep posting these to my journal rather than leaving them on my comments page to invite comments from those who have not commented before. Please engage me in this process!

You make a good point about both concreteness and flexibility. I do worry about my accomplishment of both of those. On the one hand, concrete does seem to imply some element of practicality and, beyond implication, it does indeed, as you say, require an element of taking action and I'm never certain if I am. When it comes to flexibility, I worry about the effects of my general countercultural nature on my flexibility. I often have to dig in my heels and stubbornly say this is what I want/what I'm doing/who I am just in order to get past some troubling situations. Sometimes I feel that this has damaged my ability to have a useful vision of an Ideal life. I suppose "sometimes I worry" is an inaccurate statement -- I don't think I've ver thought of or said that statement before, but I do feel it in my chest when I write it out.

To do lists are hard for me. My thinking seems not to settle easily into such an organizational pattern; I find them hard to actually hold as I walk into the future (connecting plans to actions separated from them by time); "smallest steps" seems to be difficult for me as I seem to work mostly with big concepts -- the thinker's disease; I often get overwhelmed by their size; I seem to suck at "seeing accomplishments" and maintaining the enthusiasm (thus=theos); et cetera. If you know how to help me with this kind of thing, I would be immensely garteful :-)

UTMAD, for one, seems to be hard for me to put hope into. I don't know if that is merely a reflection on it being so far from cultural norms or if it is an internalized pressure to conform. An overwhelming feeling that often bleeds in when I consider these things is the question "Am I just too far out there to fit? Can I achieve any success with these ideas, let alone success that would be celebrated by my family?" That, I think, is the one thing that prevents me from doing anything to succeed and I have no clue how to handle those feelings; I am lost adrift and even my love of doubt is no lifesaver. I think only the separation of computer screen and electrons is holding back my tears right now. It's the only explanation for why I'm not crying.

Somewhat along thopse lines, I have no clue if finishing my credential actually means anything to me anymore. I think it has some meaning -- it'll certainly lead to an actual job -- and it definitely means something to my family, but in the light of magickal utopian pedagogy and UTMAD, does it really mean anything or am I fooling myself? Self-delusion is a hell of a way to suicide, and no physical suicide is ever going to be my path, this is known.

I have NEVER been efficient in my use of energy except for a rare few moments when I get very goal-oriented while doing work, certainly nothing that can be extended into working on my Ideal Life. And, now, I have never done any real identification to obstacles. I think such work would be emotionally wrenching for me, and I think I fear it. This is why I am asking all of ya'll for help :-)

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Subject:	INFP: A Certain Disregard For The Rules
Posted by:	cosplaynekokat.
Time:	9:36 am.

Yeah, sorry about posting again so soon, I'm just really enjoying this community and I feel like I have so much to talk about!

From what I've read it seems that (some) INFPs hold a certain disdain towards the rules. Do you agree/disagree?

So, who else here has trouble following the rules people set out for them?

I, myself, am a frequent rule-breaker, but not a rule-breaker in the sense that I'm disruptive or beligerent. It's always subtle and behind-the-scenes, and the rules I've been known to break don't exactly have life-or-death consequences (ex.: eating/drinking in my room when I'm not supposed to be). I'm pretty much an angel from the outside, though.

If I think a rule is dumb, petty, unfair or easy to get around (without any serious consequences) I'll probably disegard it, especially if it's keeping me from what I want at the time. Sometimes I'll break rules to help others, too.

Well, INFPs are known for being a bit rebellious, right? ; }

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Subject:	Is this odd...?
Posted by:	cosplaynekokat.
Time:	1:54 am.

Hey guys, I'm new. Well, according to LJ I've been a member for quite some time, although I don't recall ever actually being *involved*, so... just consider me new anyway?

I'm an INFP girl, although my personality has been said to be rather androgynous. If I had to pick I could honestly say that I have more boyish mannerisms than girlish ones. I could always relate more to INFP guys as well.

Being an INFP (which is often considered less masculine) and a female, does that seem odd at all to you guys?

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brightsaber

Subject:	Another profitable going out night!
Time:	3:04 pm.

Ah, Halloween was so fun! Me and Jenny wandered out with just about no plan and ended up having a great time, despite the cold.

Highlights:

-Somehow we hit the end of happy hour, and had five rounds of drinks for about as many dollars each.

-We said something to the people at the 102.1 tent at Hooligans that they really liked, and ended up getting free CDs (mine was the soundtrack to "Whip It!" featuring the song "Sheena is a punk rocker" which, of course, makes me think of Sheena.), free T-shirts, and free movie passes to... A Ewan McGregor movie! Yaaaaay!

-Cheese Fries at Hooligans that were so good and which I am going to try to recreate at home using the same sauce and garnishes.

-Some random house party of Carroll people I didn't recognize....but the dog there loved me and kept snuggling me!

-Eggplant fries at pizza shuttle. Mmmmm.

Jenny was the 1580's and I was the 1980's. Sweet.

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Subject:	Openness to new people?
Posted by:	postal152.
Time:	7:58 am.

I know that INFPs tend to have a small inner circle of friends, and that's definitely the case with me. I used to be painfully shy, so I didn't talk to many people outside of my "group." Now I'm less so - can even be outgoing around people I don't know - which has made me a bunch of new friends.

However, most of my friends are... not necessarily more social, because I talk a lot, but more open to hanging out with a variety of people. I'll be with two of my friends (who I'm not even that close to) and feel comfortable, but then they always call other people to hang out with who I dislike or just don't know very well. The moment this happens, I feel panicky and want to go home. I don't always, but it has been a huge source of frustration lately.

So I'm wondering if this sounds familiar to anyone. Being talkative and wanting to be around people, but only the people whom you've given the stamp of approval. I'm not sure if it's shyness, or INFPness, or a little of both.

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starwars_eu

Subject:	The EU update
Posted by:	snarkel.
Time:	7:04 pm.

Out tomorrow: The Clone Wars season one on DVD/Blu Ray; Star Wars Insider #113.

Out Wednesday: Invasion #5

Novels out now: Death Troopers and Imperial Commando #1: 501st. The Complete Vader was delayed for printing issues, but I've heard that some people who ordered online may have received copies.

Comics out now: Knights of the Old Republic #46, Knights of the Old Republic Vol. 7: Dueling Ambitions, Legacy #41

Fate of the Jedi: Cover for Allies; Back cover and blurb for Backlash; Premium paperbacks are not trade paperbacks

The Old Republic. Looks like Sean Williams may be doing a novelization of the upcoming MMO.

Crosscurrent: Paul S. Kemp revealed the dramatis personae.

Comics: Issue #50 will be the last for Knights of the Old Republic.

Interviews: Joe Schreiber at StarWars.com and LAist; Leland Chee, Aaron Allston, and Abel G Peña.

Very stupid rumors. There is not going to be a sequel trilogy any time soon. Really.

Real-time news blogging goes on at Club Jade aka

cj_rss.

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tristissima

Subject:	My Ideal Life Part Two, cross-posted from my own comments page :-)
Time:	3:27 pm.

Thank you, Nancy Blue, for doing the obvious and hard thing. It helps me take myself seriously :-)

I think getting my credential is a step towards this. I'm trying to get a placement right now for my student teaching, which has to wait for Spring.

Maintaining connection with both the possible lovers I have in my life at the moment is obviously part of the work (or is that a holding pattern, which is doomed to failure? Neither is in a position right now to handle any sort of change in our relationship . . .).

Attending the BDSM munch every Wednesday has moved towards getting a lover that can meet those particular needs.

I'm munching on UTMAD, trying to work that out in my head so that when I do it, I have, you know, a thing to do :-)

My party life seems almost at the right level, as does my RPG life, though both could use a step up (RPGwise specifically, I could go for an additional group that plays story/indie/Forgite games).

Up until this past month or so, my literary life (poetry shows) has been at maintenace level, but I think I might be able to get it up to appropriate levels with the San Jose Slam and the 16th and Mission open mic.

My activist life is non-existent at the moment.

The moasticity of my life is largely absent. I was doing well last year at this time, but my grandfather's death on Beltaine weekend seems to have blown that all to hell. Of course, my daily practice isn't as polished or as inclusive as I would like it to be . . . . I have been initiated in the Ekklesia Antinoou and about half of the planetary mysteries in the Temple to Inanna and Dumuzi. I have a timeline for when I might pursue Feri initiation and knowledge of where and whom I might go for work (or at least where to look for possible teachers and whatnot) in the Aztec, Shaivite, and
Umbanda traditions, and probably Thelema as well. I am, of course, a Discordian Pope. That covers, I think, every pre-existing mup dety except Hermaphroditus and Azathoth.

I haven't done much work toward anything publishable in a couple of months, though I did get a slam poem out earlier in the year ("For Me the God Shiva"), I've got several words of a summation of magickal utopian pedagogy, and I've done a couple of cut-ups (I've thought about maybe publishing a collection of cut-ups).

How is that answer? I feel like that's a lot of stuff, but I also feel like I'm not doing enough/the right things to achieve my Ideal Life. Am I missing something? Am I doing something completely wrong? Am I fooling myself into thinking that I'm doing work in any or many of these areas when I'm really not?

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tristissima

Subject:	Ideal Life
Time:	11:09 pm.

I was thinking about my ideal life on the ride home tonight.

My ideal house has been fairly well set for a while, and I think I can extend that desire into perpetuity: rather simple, with as many bedrooms as necessary (taking into account how many live-in loves I have and any children that come with or develop therefrom), a library, a temple, and maybe an office. As my life currently stands, my grandmother's house would be exactly perfect, if I ended up alone here. I've considered her condo in Santa Cruz as well, though I would have to combine the library and the office. My parents' place would, I think, be beyond perfect, with extra rooms.

Life-wise, however, I feel like I got a fairly clear vision tonight, at least for now. I'd want to live a fairly monastic life, with regular devotional and magickal work. The bulk of my day, of course (my "job") would be the Uncle Travelling Matt Academy of the Derive, a model of education I'm working on that replaces the classroom with the derive (a concept developed by some post-Dada French Marxists in the '60s known as the Situationists). Ideally, this would be enacted as a gift economy, in which no renumeration is required but is happily accepted. My income would thus be supported by publishing my writing. On an individual level, I would want to distribute anything I wrote also as a gift economy, but I would like to publish them beyond my individual circles as well, and that would probably make me some money. I would want to be in a relationship, of course; I know of one person right now whom I would absolutely love to have with me, and I think one other would be amazing as well. I believe I would want to include, beyond these two, someone who could meet my BDSM needs and another person who had the proper energy to fulfill the role of Waldorf and Statler in our family rituals (with the lovers I mentioned before, I can just imagine the awesomeness of family rituals including Wicca, diksha, and mup . . .). In addition, of course, I would want an active party, activist, RPG, and literary life.

Of course, this is all vision work (a.k.a., daydreaming), so it's a bit of a tall order, but visions are necessary as blueprints and goals. Unfortunately, of course, while I'm great at daydreaming I'm horrible at connecting my visions with the present. Thus, I ask ya'll, all of my friends and loved ones, for two things, both here in the series of tubes and in the meatworld:

1) challenge me to develop this vision. Ask me specific questions, offer suggestions, and help me detail the whole thing.

2) help me with the hard part. Illuminate paths to getting there, challenge me to work towards it, ask me how I am currently achieving thigs, et cetera.

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Subject:	asking for suggestions on getting over "love"
Posted by:	fic_sci.
Time:	3:43 am.
Mood:	whatamIdoingat4am?.
Music:	Suede - "Picnic by the Motorway".

I saw originalkitsune's previous post on an ISTP, and that reminds me of a guy I liked just recently in high school (I'm a 1st year college student now).

(Well, I don't really know, but I think he's ISTP or something close to that)

Actually, although I liked him for 2 years, I don't know that much about him. We were on friendly terms as classmates, but I can't really say we were friends. I guess the whole time I was too shy or just couldn't connect enough with him to really be his friend. Being an INFP, I fantasized and idealized a lot about him, but I also noticed a lot of his habits. Even if I didn't know some solid facts about him, I felt like I knew him from another angle and could predict some of his actions and thoughts.

But every time my friends asked what I like about him, I realize that I didn't really know. He was nothing close to "my ideal guy." He isn't even super attractive physically, (although he's cute in a childish way). In fact, there were many things about him that I just found completely silly or annoying.

I was just able to pinpoint very recently that there was something about his presence (or the way he talks) that gives a warm, yet distant impression. Maybe I just have some "fetish" (lol) for that kind of aura... apparently not many people are that way.

Actually I've had several very memorable dreams (as in sleeping dreams) about him. I usually don't remember my dreams, and not many real people I know appear in my dreams. I know it hasn't been too long since high school is over, the last time I saw him was in May, but I find it a bit painful that I still haven't really gotten over my feelings. I usually don't think about him, but when there's something that reminds me of him, I get a sad, longing feeling.

Maybe I'm just lonely or too used to having the habit of thinking and getting excited about him. I think I might get over it if now I meet someone else I'm much more attracted to (and much closer to my "ideal guy," which is somewhat close to INFP/INFJ/ENFP), but it's been very difficult for me to even meet friends with anything in common with me, and it must be even more difficult to find a guy I'm interested in. And I feel so helpless being "in love" with rockstars all the time, haha.

Do you have any advice or experience to share about getting over this guy and/or finding love?

(I've actually never dated anyone in my life. I think I'm not bad physically, but I'm such a loner and a weirdo that maybe I push away everyone who might be even slightly interested in me, so no one has ever expressed his interest in me either... except in middle school, through the internet, which doesn't count... and a few weeks ago when some graduate student asked me to dance... and he was so embarrassed when he found out I was a first year XD XD XD poor guy, he probably hasn't had much luck either).

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Subject:	It's amazing really...
Posted by:	petaldust19.
Time:	5:35 pm.
Mood:	good.

Hi guys! I'm new to this community so I thought I would post and introduce myself a little. Or a lot!

It's amazing really how accurate the results were when I first did my personality test thingy. I didn't really expect it to be decent, I've done so called personality tests in the past that were... for want of a better word, crap. I took the test 5 times and I scored as an INFP 4 of those times, the other result being INFJ. I suppose there may be a titchy bit of INFJ in me, but by far the more accurate result was INFP.
It was quite a surreal feeling afterward when I read about being an INFP and browsed various INFP forums, it was as though the people were posting my own thoughts and feelings instead of just their own. It was great to finally be able to identify with people like myself.

For most of my life I've been quite the loner. I've had friends of course, but I've never truly felt like I was part of the loop, y'know? I had trouble fitting in when I was at school, because I just wasn't interested in most of the things that would be considered normal. I never wanted to go and smoke behind the bike sheds with the gang or go get drunk at the weekend, instead I'd go and sit in the library and lose myself in a book, or just sit in the peace and quiet and daydream about random things. There were people who liked the way I was, but it was still hard for them to get to know me, just because they couldn't understand what was going on in my head half the time.
Since school that sense of isolation never really went away. Fair-weather friends have come and gone, and at the end of it I'm always alone again. As a result, I do have a hard time trusting new people. I've been single now for well over a year after meeting far too many guys who were interested in me for my looks, but didn't know or care about who I was inside. To be honest though, I don't mind too much.
I'm fascinated by mystical things that push that boundary of possiblity, and I am a somewhat spiritual person, though I'm not religious.

Well, I guess I should stop rambling. It's nice to meet all of you, knowing that there are people like me out there somewhere is really quite comforting to know!

Kimberley x.

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Subject:	Of bands, booze, and merriment
Time:	10:51 pm.
Mood:	sore.
Music:	Tool - The Patient (Strings Tribute to Tool version).

This last week has been a little quieter :)

Ash cooked us dinner on Tuesday night. Thursday was my sister's grad, at Hawthorn Town Hall. It was pretty short, and we went for lunch at the Hawthorn afterwards.

Friday night, I hung out at work a little for drinks and RockBand (first time since being away). Came home, and had delicious chicken dinner Selina had prepared. Sarah had come over in preparation for Saturday's lolita meetup. I had enough, and went back out to meet up with work people :P Golden Monkey was busy, so we hit Charlie's Bar for a bit, then Spleen Bar. I probably should've been home before we left Charlie's . . . but I left Spleen before everyone else, at least.

Saturday morning we got ready for the meet. I had a Grand Angus for breakfast (McDonald's), and I could actually, really recommend them. We busted out to Flinders St Station, to find that no one was there . . . so we came home and checked, to find out that it was Melbourne Central :B As we walked back out, we bumped straight into the group (luckily), and headed to Degraves St for foods. With cupcakes and baguettes, we made for the park, to sit, chat, and take photos, then, to purikura.

We dropped in briefly at Selina's work, and I bumped into George busking on Bourke St, with his wife. Had a quick chat, then a little window-shopping, and home again :D Faffed around for a while until Julian and Kelly came over, then we all went to Pony for the gig. Leah's band (A Lonely Crowd) were amazing! Varliiba were as expected. An Easier Question were alright, but their manager/promoter was extremely keen. And finally, Twelve Foot Ninja were (as usual) fantastic. I even got a song dedication :D I'm told I was also a hit with the ladies XB;;

We came back home, with everyone in tow, adding Zane and Leah to the mix. Leigh and Scott never turned up, which is a bit odd. I'm a little hazy after all those jugs, but forgetting may tiny bits, not huge chunks :) I was a little written off on Sunday, but feeling . . . well, not bad or sick, but definitely worn out. We had a 1st birthday to go to, in Murrumbeena, so we ventured out there for snacks and drinks. Caught up with some of Selina's old workmates, and came home again.

Lazed the rest of the day away, and, finally, started playing with Bluetooth Wiimote connectivity. The first steps towards Merzband are coming together XD and, today, I got heaps done on this GLES Need for Speed build, all the while my back and neck have been reminding me that headbanging is bad ;)

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Subject:	INFP's likeliness to morph or feel like they're another type
Posted by:	fic_sci.
Time:	9:13 pm.
Mood:	guilty for slacking off.
Music:	Moran - Heroine.

Hmmm yes,
Lately I've been thinking that maybe I've changed personality types a couple of times in my life. To put it in a simplistic, silly way, maybe when I was younger I was an INFJ, but because I didn't like being too stubborn in trying to make other people think the way I do, I later behaved more like an INFP. And lately, I've been less idealistic and appreciate the deep beauty of "surface" beauty (ha, that doesn't even seem to make sense), and I'm beginning to think "could I be morphing into an ISFP?"

But then again, maybe INFPs are just likely to think that they're partly another type (???)

Sometimes I also wonder that, maybe because I'm obsessed with originality, if I have to live in a society full of INFPs, I would end up not liking being myself and naturally start to behave and think differently.

Any thoughts on the subject? :)

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